My advice to you, my readers who are going through fertility struggles as well:
- If you find yourself having to go through IVF-treatments one day: keep on talking to your partner and keep on loving each other. Never forget you have found someone with whom you want to start a family. Not everyone is that lucky, so feel blessed with what you do have.
- Find your moments to get away from it all, look for positive activities to distract yourselves, like sports, travel, going away for the weekend, or going to a spa.
- Don’t wait too long. If you are a female in your thirties, and you’re having trouble getting pregnant within one year, seek medical help. There might be a reason why you aren’t getting pregnant. Find out if anything is wrong.
- Take good care of yourself. It’s very hard to combine your job with an IVF treatment. Don’t stop living. Don’t put everything on hold for your big dream. The impact is enormous.
- Don’t Google too much, don’t go through all the internet forums: they will not make you better or happier. Watch out for the extreme stories people tell you. Dr Google is not a real doctor. On the internet you can find a universal truth, you can always find what you’re looking for, but you cannot draw any conclusions from what you read, nor diagnose yourself.
- Focus on your little nephews and nieces and have them stay over. Their parents are fine with that.
- Be genuinely happy for other people, try not to let it get to you when they get what you’re hoping for yourself. Try not to be affected too much by people who don’t know what it’s like. It’s impossible for them to relate.
- Be aware of the fact you’re not the only ones having to go through this. You only hear the success stories; ‘We were only just trying and she got pregnant straight away.’ You don’t hear the other stories, or only afterwards. It’s your choice to be open about this, though I realise it’s a difficult and very personal choice.
- If you feel a treatment or doctor isn’t getting you what you want, look for a different hospital/doctor.
10. Babies are born from love. You need this same love to go through all the hospital treatments.
Source: Looking for Easter Eggs, my story about love, travel and IVF (copyright 2014 Anne Tel)
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